Monday, October 08, 2007

10月8日,天气:炎热,心情:感伤

平时,和Sarah在办公室的相处,只包括聊天,一起吃饭,偶尔也会嘻嘻哈哈,说笑玩闹,下班后有时去吃饭逛街。对于她家里的事,她很少提起,我也没过问。

今天,Sarah终于回来上班了。放了一个星期的假,她却显得比放假之前憔悴。她很明显地瘦了,眼睛下面的眼袋和黑眼圈很严重。多日不见,看见她这个样子,我忍不住惊叹:“Sarah!你怎么啦?发生了什么事?”

原来, Sarah的婆婆患有老人痴呆症,上个星期一不知怎么的自己从家里跑出去,后来闹失踪,Sarah花了两天的时间,才在一家咖啡店找到婆婆。当时婆婆已经非常疲累虚弱,也受到惊吓,精神很不稳定,Sarah很担心,便把婆婆送去医院让检查。幸好婆婆的身体没什么大问题,可以当天回家。虽然婆婆没事,Sarah还是不放心,决定留在家里细心照顾婆婆,所以就请了多几天的假。

我从来不知道,Sarah其实是和婆婆相依为命的。5年前的一起车祸,夺走了Sarah父母的性命,从此Sarah和她哥哥便由年迈的婆婆照顾。不幸中的大幸,是当时Sarah和哥哥都已经长大,哥哥也已工作好几年,经济独立,他们一家三口不至于一时陷入困境。可是,三年前,Sarah刚毕业,开始工作不久,婆婆开始精神恍惚,自言自语,后来被医生诊断患上了老人痴呆症。那时,Sarah的哥哥正准备结婚,得知婆婆患病,竟然一点也不在乎,举行婚礼当天还因为怕丢脸,吩咐Sarah留在家里好好看着婆婆,不要让她出席婚宴。从此,Sarah便很讨厌自己的哥哥,而哥哥也在结了婚之后,搬出去住,很少回家探望Sarah和婆婆。不过,哥哥还算有一点良心,他每个月还是会给Sarah一笔家用,但Sarah坚决不用哥哥的钱,这笔家用虽然不多,但Sarah每个月都替婆婆储蓄起来,偶尔为她老人家买些衣服或首饰,还有补品。

听了Sarah的故事,我对她感到万分的敬佩。娇小的身躯,却隐藏着如此大的勇气和力量。

我告诉Sarah,如果需要一个人和她分担心事,可以随时找我。她什么都不说,嘴角微微上扬,“难得有你这么好的朋友。不象他,漠不关心。真的不知道当初自己为什么会喜欢他。”

原来,Sarah的男朋友在她最需要支持的时候,不但没有丝毫关心,还以工作忙碌为理由,拒绝帮Sarah寻找婆婆。

Sarah:“我们分手了。”Sarah说这句话时,眼眶泛着泪水。

她向我我叙述整件事时,都没有掉一滴泪。可见感情的结束对她的打击有多大。但,Sarah脸上的忧愁很快就消失,她马上恢复微笑。

Sarah:“我没事,你别担心。婆婆情况已经好多了,我很开心。”

和Sarah比较,我每天面对的问题是如此渺小。从她身上,我学会了勇敢。

17 comments:

Anonymous said...

yay! first one to leave comment! =)

Peifen, thanks for the story of datoufen. I was able to identify with some of datoufen's experiences. It has encouraged me alot.

Hope datoufen and sarah's friendship will grow stronger each day, as they support each other through "thick and thin". This entry has reminded me to be strong in difficult circumstances, because there are people who are around me who cares.

trin-dolphin said...

who is sarah's boyfriend?

Tai Yew Mun said...

yes. dun run away from ur problems anymore.

Unknown said...

DTF jia you x 364953679376 !!!

Anonymous said...

Hooray.... Finally be the FIRST One to comment in DTF's Blog oh...

At this time, DTF should stay beside Sarah... Sarah need friend's support...

(<") Elaine Ng (">)

Anonymous said...

I'm the first... ha.
Sarah Be Stronger than you..
so da tou fen u nuz more stronger low....
And then,Sarah....Hope you be fine...
Jia You Ba Everyone

Anonymous said...

Oh i m the first... *.*
DTF after your talk with Sharah and TCQ, you should have realize that you need to faster express to Ah toot. If not he might be with another ger again (just like in uni, he suddenly in a relationship with xinyi). Faster express to him dont drag on the story is already been >5 yrs already.

bittergourd said...

DTF:

Sarah indeed have her reasons for not replying to your message. Each of us have our own story, some of us are more fortunate, some of us are not. Sarah is indeed a strong lady, she have to take care of her granny solely, have to tolerate her bf's indifference to her family, feelings of disppointment towards her own biological brother. Hope that you could show more concern for her, as no matter how strong a person, guy or gal, he or she still needs concern, to show that there is something known as friendship in this world.

It is inevitable that once a person grows old, illnesses appear suddenly, dementia, alzheimer, heart pains, and many other. I guess Sarah must feel very lost and scared back then that her mind is only on her granny, hence no time to reply the message. It is great that you have such a brave friend, and her optimism is far beyond those who do not treasure their own lifes.

Peifen:

A seemingly simple story could bring about so many issues, aging problems, attitude towards life, selfishness of man, and a person's hard will. Nice story, I tend to learn a lot from such stories, tks. I know it will be your usual r/s story again, but still hope that ocassionally, have such light hearted entries.

93raldin3 said...

both of you jia you jia you...!!!!

Anonymous said...

sarah must add oil..
dun let those bad guy look down u...

Anonymous said...

heheh,im last...dotz
peifen,when ah toot come out again??????????

ahdee said...

hehe so many ppl think they are first... now gt moderation wor....

nice twist... was thinking all along is relationship problem.... turns out nice too.. jiayou

Anonymous said...

peifen!can you talk during the programme?:D like last time.

Anonymous said...

hmmm..i think dtf so lao tao!! boring storyline..actually the whole thing keep jumping juping lor!

Anonymous said...

It’s a great loss to Sarah’s boyfriend – he is “blinded” for he does not know how to treasure a rare gem in Sarah - the inner beauty in her - grateful, filial, appreciative … She deserves a better man …

卫斯理 said...

Sarah加油!这样自私的男人根本不爱妳,所以不必为这种人而难过。妳一定会遇到更好,更爱妳的人。何况妳还有大头芬这位好朋友,好姐妹啊。要加油喔!

Anonymous said...

so much thing had happen at datoufen and i totally enjoy it .it is great and i am glued to it everytime