Friday, January 19, 2007

2007年1月19日

今天,我、大奶彬和Daphne都收到雯婷传的一个SMS。她在SMS里说对不起,上星期五她不是故意要向老师打小报告的。她解释,在她和另外一位合唱团成员聊天的时候,不小心把我们打算提早离开的计划说出口,而刚好那时老师就在她身旁,所以就听到了。我收到这个SMS,就立刻去找大奶彬,问她有什么看法。大奶彬说:“哪里有那么巧?她一定是在撒谎!就算是真的,她也未免太多嘴了吧?”我问大奶彬,是不是真的不要原谅雯婷,大奶彬犹豫了一下,说:“原谅是可以原谅,可是我以后再也不相信她了。”

大奶彬会那么生气,也是有原因的。我们去年开始跟雯婷比较要好,刚开始时还以为她的人很善良,很可爱,可是,当我们渐渐加深对她的认识时,发觉她有很多不好的习惯。第一,她很喜欢向我们借钱。雯婷的父母是有钱商人,给她的零用钱也不少,但她很会花钱,常常花在一些很无聊的东西上,比如很贵的玩具、耳环、项链等等。到了月底,她的钱都快要花光了。她没有钱,就来向我们借。有时,她借了会还,但也有好几次,她完全忘记自己向我们借过钱,当我们提醒她时,她还会装无辜地问:“有吗?”最让人受不了的,就是当我们任何一个要买食物或饮料,向她借几毛钱时,她会很委屈地说:“哎哟,每次都跟我借,我哪里有那么多钱借给你们每一个?”

第二,她很大嘴巴。去年,大奶彬刚刚和雯婷要好的时候,以为可以相信她,就把家里发生的一些事情告诉她。当时,大奶彬的父母每天晚上都吵架,因为大奶彬的妈妈怀疑丈夫有外遇。大奶彬看见父母的关系越来越糟,非常难过,就向雯婷倾诉心情。大奶彬还吩咐雯婷,千万不要对别人说这件事,雯婷也答应了。可是,雯婷竟然把承诺忘得一干二净,在和其他朋友聊天时,把大奶彬的事都抖了出来。幸好最后是虚惊一场,大奶彬的爸爸妈妈也和好了。但,不幸的是,因为雯婷的大嘴巴,几乎全级的同学都知道大奶彬爸妈之间的事。大奶彬很生气,还和雯婷大吵一顿。我和Daphne花了足足一个月的时间,才劝得动大奶彬,说服她原谅雯婷。

我们因为把雯婷当朋友,才会一再忍受她的缺点。我们也多次尝试劝她少花钱,提醒她不要把我们的秘密说给别人听。但,忍了一年多,我们三个都觉得再也忍不下去了。给了她那么多机会,她还是这样,没有改善,我们已经很失望,甚至绝望了。我们决定,找雯婷当面谈一谈。

下课后,我们三个约了雯婷在学校的篮球场见面。大家都到齐后,我们在阴凉的一个角落坐了下来。这种谈判的感觉很奇怪,刚开始时没人知道该说什么。沉默了一下,大奶彬开口了。“我们三个都作出了一个决定。如果你不答应改掉你的坏习惯,从今以后,我们就不会把你当好朋友了。”雯婷听到这句话,表情非常惊讶,睁大眼睛,半信半疑地问我们是不是在开玩笑。大奶彬继续说:“我们不是在说笑。我们真的再也无法忍受你的缺点了。不只一次,你把我们的秘密当新闻到处宣传,我们虽然生气,还是看在友情份上原谅了你。但,你还是不懂得改。我们真的受够了。”大奶彬很少那么严肃,连我听了都有点害怕。雯婷低下头,沉默了好久,好象在思考什么。她没有反应,我们三个面面相觑,不知所措。突然,雯婷抬起头,表情完全变了。她很生气地开始骂我们,说我们很过分,联合起来欺负她。她还很骄傲地炫耀,说她朋友多的是,根本不需要我们,我们只不过是她在合唱团用来消磨时间的泛泛之交。她还骂了很多很多,说我呆得像木头,不明白Ah Toot为什么会看上像我这么笨的女生。她也批评大奶彬整天卖弄风骚,行为不检点。可怜的Daphne也被她骂到哭了,雯婷笑Daphne失败,暗恋小学同学4年,到现在还忘不了。我想,她应该说了足足15分钟的话吧,说完,就气呼呼地走了。

我们三个被她骂傻了,静静坐在篮球场。不知怎么的,我突然想到刚才雯婷骂人的表情,觉得很好笑,就忍不住笑了出来。大奶彬听见我笑,也笑了。Daphne正忙着擦干眼泪,被我们的笑声感染,也微笑了。

回家的途中,我把这件事说给Ah Toot听。他听了,边微笑边摇头,说他不明白女生为什么会为这种事浪费那么多时间,如果是他,早就不要雯婷这个朋友了。我并不觉得这是在浪费时间啊,我们是因为重视友情才会尝试劝导雯婷嘛。不过,我也很佩服Ah Toot的潇洒,朋友对他来说,好象是可有可无的。那,在他心中,什么人才是最重要的呢?

27 comments:

Anonymous said...

大奶彬 so angry for? haha..relax lah!! why ah tood last time so quiet? haha..the number one in ah tood heart must be da toufen lah..=)

Anonymous said...

lol..
tat gal damn wad lah.

bittergourd said...

DTF:

Personally feel that both parties( Wen Ting, DNB, Daphne and U) have make things worse by confronting her. I think Wen ting felt bad about causing you gals to get scolded so she explained things to you all. If not she will just heck care, it is not her that was scolded, if she was evil, she might even be gloating over you being scolded. Besides,it is not acceptable to sneak off just like that, it is disrespectful to the teacher in charge, what if she want to find you , and you just disappear. Yes, it is not that important to stay all the way but sneaking off like that without informing the teacher to me is really not right.It is also not right of you to jump to conclusions at such an early stage.

Today, you mentioned about finding it funny when Wen ting scolds you all, I guess you feel that she is right in scolding you all. No doubt she has many flaws, remember it was DNB who scolded her first. She is wrong to be so harsh with her words, but don't you think that DNB, Daphne and you need to bear some responsibilty too? Hope that a friendship will not end just like that, because being friends require effort on both parties, Wen ting was trying to apologise and yet DNB accuses her of lying. Of course, I am not DNB, I cannot say for sure that I will not be angry but sometimes we need time to cool down. Wish you that you could solve the issue with Wen Ting soon.

Peifen,

DTF's life is really intersesting nowadays. Plus you enable readers and listeners to write our own stories on the blog and that you will read them out during the show, makes it like a mini Music Diary. Thank you for sort of making up for the lack of music Diary. I personally feel that DTF somehow isn't as close to Ah toot as most of us expected them to be. They didn't even quarrel like DNB and TCQ did, they are more of friends than lovers. I guess it is better this way, a guy and a girl need not be lovey dovey to be considered as boyfriend and girlfriend. I also feel that it will be very boring for an entry to be all about DTF and Ah toot's date. This is just my view, I hope you don't mind. Good Job for the past few entries.

Anonymous said...

I feel that wen ting got problem. x.X

Anonymous said...

tralalal.. inside ah toot's heart the number one ish L-O-V-E!!! l0ls.. muahahhahaha.. tralala... maybe shld really hold hands liao larhh... XD muhahahaha

Anonymous said...

tis kinda confrontation r common in skool & practicalli anywhere else.... I'm nt afrid 2 say I gt confronted b4.... I reali reali can't wait 4 DTF & Ah Tooh 2 hold hands!! but den agn, mayb it would be beta 2 suspense it, since holdin hands is impt 2 DTF. i rmb e 1st time my 1st ex bf held hands... it was me who held his hand 1st.... tat time I was grinnin away....

Anonymous said...

Hey i got this experience before!

As we know come to sensitive conversation

1. cool the person down 1st
2. lead the person ready for topic
3. Assure the tone and words used at the rite time.

Coz wat ever words we said, that person might think differently.

I personally feel that, DTF and Ta 9pin, put the words toward 雯婷, she might be feel too sudden n heavy..

Teenager mah.. mostly dont want to lost face, thats might make 雯婷 given such of hush comments to them.

Best is let her be alone, i personally believe that 雯婷 is not a petty person.

I feel that she will do self reflection and back to DTF team la la!!

Lets pray for her

Frm Bernard

kath 公主 said...

雯婷真的是太过分了
关于Ah Toot,真正的友情才是最重要的吧!

Anonymous said...

i gt backstab by my stupid classmates n being called a FLIRT!!! wad am i suppose to do? T__T

J.me Ko said...

雯婷sld really change tat habit lor.. ask her to change is bcause treat her as friend.. IF dun treat her as friend.. wotn even worth to tell her leh!

Anonymous said...

Of course is you la....why da tou fen so blur like sotong......
anywhere every one also got their bad habit one laaaa...
but sometime,some friend will be do their mistake.....is really too much one...
Da Tou Fen Don't Worry,U still got the another best friend and ah toot.
jia you ba ...^-^

Anonymous said...

that wenting is really horrible. taking her frens for granted and dont even bother to return the money that she borrows from datoufen they all?? what??? she very mighy izzit?? ok... its not so nice of the 3 gurls to confont her like that, but she should not scold pple like that!!! who is she?? she is worse then yu tou!!! she should think how she normally acts or maybe listen to critisms clamly and see if she can change!!!! so what if she have many frens?? they will go off evantually if she continues her attitude like this!! she will regret it!!!!!!

Anonymous said...

我也有这种事, betray be friend la

Anonymous said...

Recently, Singapore and Thailand got into a diplomatic spat over the private visit of Mr Thaksin.

It seems that the Thai generals have been trying ways and means to “finish him off” politically!

When faced with such a huge pressure, only two types of people would be so relaxed:

1) something is wrong with his brain
2) he is an exceptional talent

When a guy wishes to see a girl, would he make the request to the girl’s parents?

Anonymous said...

the fact tt she invited u guys 4 the christmas means she's not a bad by nature girl.

u haf given her probably too much pressure...

jia you hor!!

Anonymous said...

peifen jie


i feel that wenting is too upset till crazy le when DNB told her if she dun chage , they wil not make frenz wif her...

i feelt hat wen ting is also beri ke lian... daphne, you and DNB should ask her wad is hapening ? not straightforward telling her to change.. mayb she had somehting kept inside the heart..

Anonymous said...

Hi,wo ting le da tou fen de shi jie, yi jing you ji ge yue le,Wen Ting zuo le tai guo fen le, wo wei ni men gan dao bu zhi!!!!!!!!!

Anonymous said...

大头芬should not be friend with wen ting. so black hearted, why waste time to confront, this type of person wont admit her mistake.

friend should help one another when they are in need. wen ting will suffer in the end?? or wen ting like ah tood?? she scold da tou fen say that why ah tood like this type of girl.....

Anonymous said...

我觉得雯婷实在是太过分了,简直是恶人先告状!!
难得大奶彬和大头芬愿意好好地跟她谈,他却完全不领情,真是的...

Lyanne Teo said...

其实,我曾经遇过类似的经验。

我们是好同学兼好邻居。但被挑拨自己无法分青红皂白而下定论。也怪当时情绪很乱,不理智。也没人教如何面对类似问题。

严重到。。。。。。
把双方父母都搅进这场风波。想起来真的很无知,很无聊,很可惜。。。。。。。

从小学同校同班,到高中也一起。是缘分吗?但从来都不理不睬!!
当成透明的,。,。,。

心里都不好受,关系闹得这么僵。锘可从来,我绝不轻易听信谣言。

朋友,要珍惜;友情,要经营。

啊,大家要加油,加油。。。

Lyanne Teo said...

wenting,maybe so use n hard 2 keep de secret...

要帮别人藏秘密,很辛苦!!!

说与不讲都很难受。。。

信赖的朋友难找。其实有些观点不同。他觉得重要,但听者却觉得是小事哦。。。

责任很重要。虽然我的信誉蛮好啦,嘻嘻!!!

Anonymous said...

I understood how Ah Toot feel. Yap! Friends who are not on the same path as you are really a nuisance. Not only they used you but also "leech" on you, so it is really a waste of time to be with them.. Not friend is also better off with someone so nasty.

Anonymous said...

true enemy is better than false friends.

Anonymous said...

我觉得雯婷很过分,他不知悔改。但他也很可怜,他将失去一班要好的朋友。有时,人就是这样,他不懂得珍惜眼前美好的事,但却去追求一些不对的,不该的。打比方就是追求一些以谣言,来换取友情的朋友。希望雯婷能早日醒悟,也希望我像他一样的那位朋友,早日醒悟。

Anonymous said...

hm.. me and my bf were friends for quite a long time before we became couple.. when we become couple, we tend to have lesser topic to talk about.. den i made the first move to talk to him about our problems and seek advise from friends... by doing so, can help to understand what we were going thru..

huilee said...

First time posting comments here...

After hearing the repeat telecast on 23rd Jan 2007...

Have lotsa feelings that i can relate to...

After i got together with my bf...
Friends drift apart from me...
They used to be friends...
They used to had a crush on my bf...

Now he's my bf...
They are friends...
But i guess they can't take the fact that the guy they like has become my bf...

Its pretty bad feeling...
Coz when feelings comes, it comes...
I nv expect to become with my bf either...

But since it has already become a fact...
Why are they still doing things to me...
Far more things happened...
=(

Anonymous said...

hi..
personally I feel that in a relationship from a best fren of yours suddenly becomes your boyfren, there will be a large gap. For frens, you can just speak normally and the topics to talk to is larger in contents whereas for couples from frens, one party will feel stress as the changes of relations will either bring both of the relationship between u and him closer or more distance...so ah Toot and datou fen, I hope they will be together and don break so fast la...cos its not easy to be together but its easy to break up due to small matters..so must zhen xi...
大奶彬 this character...very cute lor..her reactions all very big and feel that she is like the big sister of the group...