很开心，因为，昨天，我和大奶彬和好了。
昨天，休息时间，我主动去问大奶彬要不要一起到食堂去吃东西。她显得很惊讶，不过也看得出她很开心，只是因为死爱面子而强力忍住不要微笑，装酷回答，“OK咯。”
在走去食堂的途中，我轻声告诉大奶彬：“喂，我…看见美云和Steve一起在乌节路逛街咧。”
大奶彬听见我说这句话，第一个反应是眼睛睁得比月饼还要大，嗯，OK，没有那么夸张啦，比五毛钱还要大啦，嘴巴半张开，差点就大喊出来。可是，她又突然收回惊讶的表情，故作镇定，有点嚣张地瞥了我一眼，好像是在用眼神跟我说：“你看！我说的没错吧？”
我看大奶彬没说什么，便吞吞吐吐地继续说：“嗯…我上星期不应该怀疑你，这次是我错怪了你啦。”
她还是没转过来看我，也没说话。真是的，非要我说出那三个字不可。
“对…不…起啦。”虽然自尊心让我有点不甘愿说出这句话，但因为珍惜大奶彬这个朋友，所以还是说了。
大奶彬听了，沾沾自喜地微笑，开心地看着我，说：“这样就对了！嘻嘻。”
她停了一下，继续说：“上次，我没告诉你是谁看见美云和化学老师在一起，是因为那个人不让我说。其实，看见他们的人是天才庆。”
“真的？天才庆看见美云和Steve很亲热地在一起？”
“嗯…嗯…没有很亲热啦。哎呀。轮到我要说对不起了啦。其实，天才庆只是说看见美云和Steve一起离开学校，上同样的巴士。至于亲热，是我自己加进去的细节啦。”
“什么？！唉！你怎么可以这样？话不能乱说的！”我真的有点愤愤不平。就算大奶彬没有说谎，也不应该乱加盐加醋。
“我知错了啦。那天，跟你吵架之后，我告诉天才庆我在字条里写了什么，天才庆也骂了我一顿。他说我扭曲事实，这样很没有道德。我已经好好反省了。以后不会再这样了。你是我最要好的朋友，你一定要相信我咧！”
看得出大奶彬真的很诚恳。我决定原谅她。
“喂，你有问美云她和Steve老师的关系吗？”大奶彬还是大奶彬，改不了鸡婆的个性。
“没有啦。这种事情，怎么问？”其实我真的很想问，想叫美云不要越陷越深，可是又不知道该怎样开口。这两天，我都不太想和美云说话。因为不知道该怎么面对她。美云似乎没察觉到我对她的冷淡。她就是这样，我行我素，虽然天天面对她，但对于她的生活和家庭背景我并不是很清楚。唯一知道的，是美云可以很叛逆，也可以很倔强。敢做敢为的她是不会理会别人对她的看法的。所以，我认为，如果她喜欢化学老师，她是真的会主动去追，不顾一切地想办法接近老师。我也可以预测，如果我尝试劝阻美云，她很可能会嫌我多管闲事，而不要跟我好。
唉！怎么办呢？真的不想看到朋友继续错下去。该怎么帮她呢？
讨论话题：
你觉得道歉是一件很困难的事吗？为什么？向谁道歉最困难？
每逢星期一、三、五晚上8点30分在新传媒电台YES933首播；星期二，四，一上午11点30分重播。
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- Peifen
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34 comments:
Yo peifen
Reading your 大头芬的世界, start from the very first episode.. The story is very funny, young and innocent….well done, gambateh yo ;)
Cheers
J'
I think mei yun and Mr.Steve is not BGR.. They are family
it is very difficult to say sorry to family members especially parents.
i think saying sorry to someone whom you care a lot about is difficult. It's hard to say sorry as you gt to lower your pride and apologise and wait for the person's forgiveness. However, if the person is really at fault, then i think must say sorry, no matter what.
ya i also think say sorry to parents is veri tough..
我觉得道歉...说困难,也不是很难;说容易,可是又没那么容易啰...其实我也不懂为什么会酱子啦,或许像大头芬说提到的自尊心吧!因为自尊心,所以那"三个字"就显得很困难.我认为对每个人道歉都很困难,尤其是自己有错在先.不管怎样,还是要勇于认错啦~~
i think that to say sry i diffcult to a certain extend when i come to differnet situaton...example if its just a small misunderstand between friend it would require abot of courage to say sry cause u have to put down ur pride to say it out... then another example is that when this sorry is being said when things are not serious like "sry la sry la...not purposly de" like this can sense without sincerity...
so saying sry to someone with is very close is hard cause 1stly...have to put down ur pride as friend to say sry...
ya hope to see and hear more story about you...
best of luck!!!
我觉得对父母道歉很难。也许是从小就没有向父母道歉的习惯吧，总觉得他们会明白我们想表达的歉意，不需要说出口。对陌生人反而容易多了。是自尊心的问题吗？还是我们认为父母对我们好是理所当然，不管我们错的多么严重都不是问题？
要说对不起的确是件容易的事，尤其是对自己在乎的人说，那更是难上加难！
我好喜欢听大头芬的世界。
你加油哦！
Hmm.. First i think mei yun and the teacher is nothing becoz as you say mei yun 她是主动,倔强 abit tomboy gal to a young male teacher their will treat her just like buddy or a little small sister so confirm both nothing lor...
Second your question 向谁道歉最困难? To me confirm is my dad becoz i not easy say sorry to anyone now want me say sorry to him hard lor...Becoz not my fault why i need to say sorry right?
hmmm...
我是觉得“对不起”不难讲...
espcially when 是自己做错事...
向谁最难说“对不起”...
应该是父母吧..
不知道为何..
现在想想...
我好像从来没有对他们说过这三个字...
可能觉得原谅孩子是父母的责任吧..
我不知道..
I think saying sorry to the people whom you are close with, is the most difficult. Example family members and good friends. Becos u see them almost everyday, it's hard to put away ur pride and say sorry and face them again.
But then again, they are the people whom we should treasure most. So if wqe are really in the wrong, we should put away our pride and apologise sincerely to them.
对 不 起 很 容 易 说 ，
也 很 难 说 出 口 。。。
主 要 是 看 是 对 谁 说 。。。
如 果 那 个 人 是 你 在 乎 的 话 ，
你 会 迁 就 他 而 向 他 说 对 不 起 。。。
如 果 你 很 生 气 对 方 的 话 ，
认 为 他 不 值 得 你 低 下 头 来 道 歉 ，
你 就 会 宁 愿 绝 交 而 不 肯 道 歉 。。。
所 以 是 要 看 个 人 肯 不 肯 撕 下 你 的 脸 皮 的 。。。
the most diffecult is to young sister and parent !!!
Apologising can b simple or difficult, depending on how u view it.
it's easy to apologise but when you really did something wrong that word seems so hard to come out from your mouth.
It's very hard to say "Sorry", when you think you are not in the wrong. When both parties thinks tt way, it's very very hard to give in. It's life. Although everyone should give and take.. perhaps take turn to say sorry?.. in a way to maintain a relationship.
Even in BGR, you couldn't always expect ur bf to always say sorry and give in.. etc. Sometime you have to say sorry for the sake of saying.. LoLz~ It's a unexplainable!
In family, it's very hard to say sorry to parents.. esp in traditional family, perhaps.. almost everything is taken for granted and feel ardward to hear something so 'embrassing'?.. I oni 1st learnt to say sorry to my mum, once in a blue blue moon when there was a time she mentioned out tt she was very sad to hear me throw my temper out of sudden... For alot of small stuffs, we noe “家和万事心”mah... as long as in a family, the word sorry is very rare and uneasy. It's even even harder to say "sorry" to my dad. So many years liao, this words is too 'polite' in a family somehow. We only learn to explain wat went wrong, rather then say the magic words. HoHoHo! Watever it is, we knew tt parents will still be parents and daughter will still be daughter.
And, as their children, we won't expect our parents to say "sorry" watever things is they ever do wrong. Never once they said. We can only try to "laugh it out" within ourselves.
For a friend, if we values this friendship... when any of us realised tt it's her own fault in the 1st place, she will reflect herself immediately and "sorry" comes in. Reason is, she do hopes tt the friendship still stay as strong as before.. or even BETTER than before.
Why we have to say "Sorry" when we need to? Cos in most of the time, sorry worth alot of more than just faces :P
For someone who never say "Sorry" in his/her own entire life, I think the person must thought tt he or she is too perfect! Haha! And for tt person who never have friends to make him/her understand the purpose of "Sorry", he or she might be actually friendless... It reflects the person character in life. (Just personal opinion~)
hey , i noe how d feelin of gettin reunited with friends , i hav a friend who always get apart from me because i am very 'po ma'[nagin]n a mama's boy , now tis happen again n i am very sick of it ,perhaps of d reason of [better an open enemy than a false friend] , but i do enjoy playin with him , could u help me by givin me tips,please?i wish 2 reunite with him before chinese new year.'tuan yuan'plz,plz,plz?
讨论话题：
你觉得道歉是一件很困难的事吗？为什么？向谁道歉最困难？
It's very difficult to said sorry to parents and parents will always forgive their child if they are in the wrong so we always take it for granted..
I tink it's also very difficult for "wan bei" to say sorry to e younger generation.. Eg. parents to their kids.. It's e "face" problem.. Sometime it's understandable but will still feel unfair.. How cum when we as the younger generation did sumting wrong we have to apologise if not we r rude and not manner but not e same treatment to the "wan bei".. Tat's my personal opinion..
Purple riging hood
啊涵，
Apologising to someone you love is a tedious thing. When you are in the wrong, you have to come out with something that is going to put out the fire in her and make her forgive you. If she is in wrong, then have to think of something or to twist the wrong on her part to make it become your fault. Surely cannot let those small matters put a stop on the relationship. Haiz!!
GST increases from 5% to 7%
On 15th Feb 2007, the increase in GST is going to be announced.
Should it be increased?
The answer is YES.
Due to the trend of Singaporeans marrying late and giving birth to fewer kids, the tax revenue is set to get lower, thus making the problem worse!
Thus, it is vital for the ministers to pay full attention on the double whammy of aging population and low birthrate instead of spending time on pressing their claim on a pay hike! Doing this will not only distract themselves but also the citizens from the critical problems!
Of course, this is not the only reason for ‘supporting’ the increase in GST.
In the recent years, the government relied on the Net Investment Income (NII) to balance its budget. In other words, the budget (without considering the proceeds from land sales) would in the red if the NII amount were to fall by a few billions dollars.
That is not a totally impossible scenario if we were to use the Shin Corp deal as an example. Currently, iTV (one of the Shin Corp unit) is facing the fate of closing down. If I didn’t make a wrong prediction, the next target would be Shin Satellite.
Should we blame the Thais for being petty- minded? To those who say ‘Yes’, please answer my next question. How would Singaporeans feel if a Thai GLC were to take control of SingTel and Mediacorp?
Two things are for sure:
1) The government is in deep trouble!
2) If this event were to take place just before GE, the ruling party will “Pay and Pay”- it will face the anger of the voters!
Singapore has a wide- ranging relationship with Thailand. It involves military, economic and political ties.
Also, Thailand ...........
While it is obvious that Dr Mahatir is trying to ‘sabo’ Singapore, there is some truth in his accusation (that Singapore is selfish).
When the Shin Corp deal was initially concluded, the opponents of the then Thai Premier Thaksin Shinawatra made use of this deal to attack him politically. At that time, Temasek Holdings (TH) insist on keeping Shin Satellite and iTV, saying that these assets are bought with cold hard cash. While what the TH officials said is true, wouldn’t it be better that it issue a statement that goes:
“Everything has a price, including Shin Satellite and iTV. When the right offer came along, we will consider it!”
It is just a statement issued to ‘soften’ the situation, whether TH will really do so is that important!
Doesn’t TH understand that its life will be ‘easier’ if Mr Thaksin managed to ‘save’ himself?
Such a simple thing to do in order to make its life ‘easier’, yet TH stubbornly refuses to do it!
As a result, Mr Thaksin was deposed, the military government installed and the entire kingdom plunged into political turmoil!
After the coup, TH finds that its life is getting ‘harder’ thus it resort to ‘carrying balls’! It employed a Thai ‘old man’ as its adviser and ended up provoking the Thai Crown Prince into issuing a public statement!
I now wonder whether it is ‘controversial’ enough for the students to ask questions should they be lucky enough to meet TH officials!
For the ‘carrying balls’ aspect, we can’t really blame the TH officials. After all, the so- called world class educational system doesn’t teach Singaporeans on how to ‘carry balls’, it only teaches this:
“Study hard, graduated with a degree, find a good job and start your lifetime pursuit of 5Cs- Cash, Condominium, Credit Card, Career and Country Club membership!”
It is due to the national obsession with 5Cs that we are always unsatisfied with our pay packet- whether it is an annual salary of S$ 300,000 or S$ 1m- and will thus press our claim when opportunities arise!
We don’t lose our souls in order to become chairmen because we have already lost our souls when going through the so- called world class educational system!
A few decades ago, although people live in squatter huts with holes in the ground as toilets, lives were much simple. Nowadays, people lives in high-rise buildings with electricity, running water and lifts but some people behave like wild beasts as though they are living in high-rise zoos!
Just because of the Shin Corp deal, we have indirectly caused Thailand to suffer political turmoil. How could we feel ease at heart!
On this issue, where is the so- called principle of fairness and justness?
It is high time for the Singapore Government to take TH in hand!
As a Chinese saying goes:
“Xiu shen yang xing, Qi jia, Zhi guo, Ping tian xia”
“Cultivate yourself, manage your family and then rule the country!”
The most worrying thing of all is that since Independence, the post 65 generation has not managed to produce an exceptional talent (using LKY as the measuring standard)! Perhaps Singaporeans will have to wait for another 40 years before an exceptional talent will finally emerge! LKY is currently 84, assuming that he will live until 100 year old, it is 16 more years to go!
I got a feeling that they might be cousins or something one... ;)
Actually, sometimes I think all of us might be stuck in situations when we are forced to apologise for mistakes that we never have made (in misunderstandings). However, if we continue to be upright with out principles, we know that the situation wouldn't be any aided whatsoever. Those are the hardest times to say sorry; it's quite a moral dilemna isnt't it?!
(Oh but anyway, I think Steve and Mei Yun are not having BGR. They really could be just family or cousins!)
其实，对不起这三个字有时真的很难叫人说出口。有时，你就是没有那样的勇气，有时，也是因为你的自尊心在作怪。更何况，在跟人道歉的时候语气跟态度也是很重要的。若语气跟态度不恰当，那意思就会很不同了。因此，我认为道歉其实也是一门学问。
i feel that sometimes we all find it hard to say sorry because subconciously we fear that the apology will not be accepted after doing so. it'll be more hurting for an apology to be "rejected" in that sense.
other than that, i think pride plays a big part in saying sorry, at least for me it is so.
I wonder Y everyone has the thinking that saying Sorry to parents is very difficult. I am a parents with 2 Kids & I'll tell them that it is alright to acknowledge yr mistakes as man do make mistakes... so do parents. I'll apologise to my kids if I'm in the wrong too.
So children, just say sorry if u r in the wrong as it does not cost much & it'll not kill u right ? Do remember that Parents forgive their flesh & blood.
I thing the most difficult situation of saying sorry is to your friends. We always think that friends shld understand us & they shld forgive & forget. But... the truth is they also expect an apology if u r in the wrong.
I always tell myself that by saying sorry means that you cherish & treasure the relationship. It is no big deal even if I'll to say sorry first.
I believe they will understand & cherish us more as we acknowledge our mistakes willingly.
Regina
hey, peifen...
u noe i been catching up yr show 4 a veri long time already and i like them veri much..keep up the gd work and gd luck...
Debate on Biomedical Industry
I followed the recent debate on Biomedical Industry with interest.
Dr Lee Wei Ling and Mr Philip Yeo are apparently having different views regarding the development of the biomedical industry. Both of them add up to more than 100 years old. I wonder why they are so immature.
Currently, the Government is facing ‘triple whammy’ from Malaysia, Indonesia and last but not least, Thailand. Instead of helping to think of solutions to help the government to solve the triple whammy’, they are creating a ‘sideshow’ with their debate on Biomedical Industry.
Where did the funds for R & D come from in the first place? It came from the budget. In the recent years, the government relied on the Net Investment Income (NII) to balance its budget. In other words, the budget (without considering the proceeds from land sales) would in the red if the NII amount were to fall by a few billions dollars.
That is not a totally impossible scenario if we were to use the Shin Corp deal as an example. Currently, iTV (one of the Shin Corp unit) is facing the fate of closing down. If I didn’t make a wrong prediction, the next target would be Shin Satellite.
Should we blame the Thais for being petty- minded? To those who say ‘Yes’, please answer my next question. How would Singaporeans feel if a Thai GLC were to take control of SingTel and Mediacorp?
Two things are for sure:
1) The government is in deep trouble!
2) If this event were to take place just before GE, the ruling party will “Pay and Pay”- it will face the anger of the voters!
Singapore has a wide- ranging relationship with Thailand. It involves military, economic and political ties.
Thus, I would urge all Singaporeans to focus on this more critical issue rather than focusing on the ‘sideshow’.
wooos ! jyjy :DD
i think saying sorry is easy when with "empty heart". but ture feeling and sincerity is the most important thing.
haha...i just realize my frd is so alike as me. our replies in here..and dat we like to listen to datoufen.
btw, su ling is my frd. hahaha
i think it is most difficult to say sorry to your spouse's family.. especially sis-in-law.. i don't know how to explain.. but is true loh :(
- sharon
我觉得觉得容易的人会觉得容易，觉得难的人就会觉得难咯~~
正所谓：‘天下事又难易乎？为之，则难者亦难矣。不为，则易者亦难矣！’
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